A Contributing Testimony for “WOMEN SHARE MOVEMENT (Women on a Mission)”
In 1988, as a newly divorced mother with two little babies both still in diapers, my life was beginning a new chapter with responsibilities and adjustments in my life.
Yes, it was a time when everything looked bleaker than bleak. Yet, I made a decision to sever a marriage I was unwilling to reconcile. I had a hard heart with a stubborn mind and was determined to follow through with that decision and mindset of going through all the steps to salvage the marriage mandated in a divorce process. Nonetheless, I knew my life ahead was not going to be easy, as it was my choice to have that unforgiving heart. Recognizing that the divorce became final, I then had to actually go through the day-to-day routine for a single parent that became a reality.
There was no such thing as coordinating the drop-off or picking-up of the children. There was no such thing as sharing in the purchase or stocking of children’s care necessities in supply at home. There was no such thing as sharing in the decisions for their schools, responsibilities of when they were sick or when parental attendance or participation was necessary for their events or extracurricular activities. There was no such thing as having a home to go to at the end of the day that would be with the comforts in having the ideal traditional family consisting of father, mother and children all together. There was no such thing as having a husband that was intended to be the father, husband and leader for the family. I was all alone.
Handling those major changes, and being a mother working a full-time job included much driving as part of my daily routine. I felt embarrassed that I became a statistic, and had to face the reality of having a failed marriage. Those times spent on the road driving, however, were spent with much thinking and planning with respect to my new set of circumstances.
In recognizing that much uncertainty was ahead, I believe that God knew I was at that point when I finally would be willing and ready to listen to Him. As a stubborn-minded person that I can be at times, I saw myself stripped of the comforts I had in exchange for the struggling and incomplete picture-perfect-family image.
Although I was one who had attended church when I was younger, I knew of God, yet I did not really know or understand anything about having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. My upbringing was to always understand that God was there but could never comprehend the importance or the necessity of the Christian essentials.
As humbling as it was, as I look back on those years now, I can see how God was able to get my attention through my circumstances by using a local radio station here in Honolulu, Hawaii, KLHT Radio 1040AM, to come into and be a part of my life. Having a solitude life with much time spent travelling on long drives were materials that God used in my life that became fertile ground to start my new growth as a believer in Jesus Christ.
I did not know, nor did I understand as to what kind or type of radio station that I was listening. Although I had no clue that it was with Christian teachings with praise and worship music, God knew how to touch my heart and speak to me through that radio station. Through those scheduled programs that I was able to hear through God’s divine timing, my heart became softened and found myself receiving Jesus as Lord and Savior and wanting to learn more. In a way, the void that was the result of emptiness with a divorce and a hardened heart full of stubbornness was replaced with an addiction to desiring more of the things of the Lord. It seemed like everything I could listen to made sense and in a way I could understand as how Jesus simply taught the little children. As even the little children wanted to be close to Jesus, He told them in Mark 10:14:
Let the children come to me! Don’t try to stop them. People who are like these little children belong to the kingdom of God.
With a new status in life, and being like a child or new creation in Christ, my new life had sprouted with an appetite that I now cannot imagine to be without. With all things new, and the slate clean and forgiven of the wrongs of the past, how can one go back to a lost and broken life instead of going forward and follow Christ instead who watches, takes care and leads as our Shepherd?
All I knew was to grow forward immersing myself in listening to various messages, recorded teachings, by reading the Bible, being around other believers and to keep my radio tuned to KLHT Radio 1040AM whether I was in the car or at home and kept it on at home at all times 24/7. Having that on at all times of the day and night allowed my ears to hear words and music as to how God wanted to speak and comfort me in whatever the situation may be. He knew that I would be drawn to hearing programs at divinely appointed times that I would readily receive at those specific time periods.
After knowing I had that insatiable desire for Christ from all what I have heard and learned, I knew I had to find and start going to a church with my children. I knew that God was allowing me to grow in Him, yet I had to find someplace where I could be among other believers. I knew I could not grow in the same kind of church that I attended while I was growing up, and was looking for one that I could understand with simple and clear teachings. After all, the Bible does teach us in Hebrews 10:25:
Some people have gotten out of the habit of meeting for worship, but we must not do that. We should keep on encouraging each other, especially since you know that the day of the Lord’s coming is getting closer.
Naturally, I could see God speaking to me directly using various means. Over the years, life as a divorced, single parent consisting of many of life’s challenges comes with learning and understanding that God can get a hold of me and speaks personally in whatever way He chooses and knows in order to get my attention.
And after asking and receiving Jesus Christ to be in my life, there is newly found hope for a new beginning as a new creation with a new life. Although the divorce took place many years ago, I can say that my husband is my maker and therefore I am not ever alone. Isaiah 54:5 reads:
Your husband is your Maker. His name is the Lord of Armies. Your defender is the Holy One of Israel. He is called the God of the whole earth.
It does not matter what had happened in the past like careless decisions that were made. Ephesians 2:1 says:
In the past you were spiritually dead because of your sins and the things you did against God.
Since my new life as a believer and regardless of whatever the challenge had been in the past, currently experiencing or will take place in the future, I see it amazing that God wants to speak to anyone who desires and is ready and willing to hear Him too. He is always ready and will always be there. Mark 4:23 states:
If anyone has ears to hear, let him hear.
Does anyone want to start afresh and is willing or want to hear and receive Him too? All you have to do is speak to Him directly by saying the sinner’s prayer:
Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and have done bad things. I know that you sent Jesus to save me, and that He died on the cross to take the punishment for my sins. I know that Jesus rose from the dead and is coming back someday. Please forgive me of all of my sins, and come into my life and change me. Please guide me in my life and help me to follow you for the rest of my life. Thank you for saving me and taking me to heaven when I die.
In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
After sincerely praying those words and inviting Jesus into your life, I congratulate and welcome you into God’s family too. If not here on Earth that we shall meet, I look forward to meeting you personally in our eternal home with Him in heaven.
Remember though, as you entered through those double doors of divorce and single-parenting, and although it may seem that there may be periods during the course of this journey when you may feel alone and think no one cares, there is and there always will be the One and Only who stands at the door and knocks. He will be your strength when you think you are alone and weak.
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